>NTA!

Wrong sub. ;-)

And yeah, some folks don't get how a marriage is supposed to work, how it's a partnership between two people who are supposed to love each other. A good marriage partnership is a "whole is greater than the sum of its parts" type of deal. I've had that before, but unfortunately some folks weren't raised with good relationship examples and it's a hard concept for them to wrap their minds around. I think they view a marriage as almost a roommate situation where you get to have sex. ::shrugs::

The correct answer is "He's not overprotective, this is just what a partner is supposed to do for the people they love, I do the same for him."

Frankly, I feel only pity for your coworker that she married someone who doesn't show that he cares about her.