>In order to have only 90 minute commute to nyc office, you’d need to at least be in Norwalk and then that’s an 80 min drive to West Hartford.

Does that not meet the criteria of being "80-90min max for each person"? Proving that it is possible.

Google Maps shows 2 hours flat drive time from WeHa to Manhattan. 2:20-2:40 with traffic. Of course if you are riding the train instead you are adding to your commute time. But even if you settle on a cautious estimate of 3h travel time from WeHa to NYC, splitting the difference still doesn't work out to be 2h per person.

Your original assertion that both parties will have a commute over 2 hours is wrong. If OP moves closer to Hartford in order to reduce his wife's commute, he may be commuting upward of 2 hours, but his wife obviously will not. If OP moves closer to New York (ie FFC) to reduce his own commute, he will clock in at or under 2h door-to-door, and so will his wife. A reverse commute from any part of Fairfield County to WeHa will not take more than 2 hours barring extraordinary circumstances (major accident, snowstorm, etc). The only way they could possibly both have more than 120min one-way is if they moved somewhere completely out of the way.

> They’re each looking at a 2+ hour commute each way

What? It literally takes 2 hours to get from West Hartford to NYC. This is mathematically impossible. Yes, traffic is a factor, but if OP lives close to a Metro North train station and his wife is driving against traffic the majority of the way, neither of them should be going much more than maybe 80-90min max from a halfway-point home.

First place that popped into my mind was Danbury/adjacent towns (Bethel, Brookfield, possibly some parts of New Fairfield or Southeast, NY) . Long but easy train ride into the city from Southeast (90min + however long it takes to drive to the station), and roughly 1h drive to West Hartford, against traffic the vast majority go the way.

As Prince sang, Sometimes It Snows in April...

Anyone who's been around long enough to remember 1997 knows you can't really claim victory over winter until at least April 1. Snow is absolutely still possible later in April (here in the hills of Putnam/Dutchess Counties NY, I remember that we actually had a dusting on the ground in May of 2020...) but by that point overall temperatures/ground temperature is usually high enough that it all melts away pretty quickly if it even accumulates at all.

The two major snow dumps this month were already uncharacteristically late in the season. Winter started out mild mainly due to La Niña. La Niña is over now, hence a more "normal" winter rolling in at the eleventh hour. I wouldn't be surprised if Mother Nature has one more left in her.

Geographically dependent as well. If you're along the coast, honestly you're probably in the clear. In the mountains of NWCT I wouldn't be packing up snow gear until after Easter.

Not really a CT-specific thing, if you commute 70 miles with elevation change you should be checking separate forecasts for both places regardless of where in the world you are...

Find a traffic ticket lawyer local to IN to at least drop it down to a parking ticket or something. Even with the lawyer fees, still cheaper in the long run than dealing with insurance going up, points on your license, etc.

I live in NY very close to CT border (Westchester/Putnam county to FFC) and you are absolutely right. Our roads are trash. You can tell the exact moment you cross the state line based on the road quality.

The lookback period for traffic tickets and accidents/claims is usually somewhere between 3-7 years depending on the company. Not sure if it is longer for a DUI.