Now_Villager
Now_Villager t1_jeemix5 wrote
Reply to I (22m) live with my boyfriend (20m) and he doesn’t want me watching ‘normal’ porn, but I want to be able to do what I want. by CaptainTortillas_
Only you can decide. If this is his one request and it's a deeply held conviction that he also applies to himself, you might choose to make this sacrifice as a kind of loving gift to him. If there are other rules he's imposing on you, though, let him go.
Now_Villager t1_j2f9si4 wrote
Reply to (26 F) (27 M) My boyfriend’s dog is driving a wedge and building resentment between us and I don’t know what to do. by Taylor_4l
It's not the dog that needs training, it's your BF. This is an accident waiting to happen. He needs to find a good dog behaviourist or trainer to help him learn how to be head of this dog's pack.
Now_Villager t1_j2eqs5n wrote
Well, you sound like you've made up your mind to do it, so not sure if you're open to other views, but I think you should be very cautious as this seems likely to make your wife's trauma worse. Even with her permission (which maybe she feels she has to give to keep you happy) it's still a betrayal of your marriage vows.
Now_Villager t1_iyf8tv4 wrote
She is a unique, whole person. You are a unique, whole person. Start from there.
Now_Villager t1_iyf8akq wrote
Reply to Help I (18 M) accidentally called my GF (23 F) “mommy “ in front of her family. by [deleted]
Leave the country.
Now_Villager t1_iyed3qq wrote
Reply to why am i like this? by dyingofthirst23
This isn't a criticism, but at some level could it be about getting validation? Sometimes people who don't feel much self esteem or maybe confidence (especially when you're young) will look for it from other people, and once you've got it you lose interest in them. If that sounds like it might be you, make a list of all your strengths, good points and your dreams to help get clear on who you are.
Now_Villager t1_iyeb5r6 wrote
Sorry, but you need to stop seeing her. Maybe she's working out her own distress or trying to find a way out of the relationship she's in, but she needs to do that on her own time, not by using you.
Now_Villager t1_iyeaqto wrote
Oh, no no no no no. No.
Now_Villager t1_iujawql wrote
Reply to My father is cheating on my mother by Throwaway785587
I think it's your father you need to confront. How dare he put you in this position? Really cheap. My guess is he wants someone else to take responsibility and doesn't care if you do tell your mother.
Now_Villager t1_jeeniva wrote
Reply to Am I [M41] neglecting my wife [F20]? by ElHermano56
It sounds like this was the final straw for her. I think what she's asking you to do is be fully present when you're with her.
If you met her when she was maybe 17, it makes me wonder if it was arranged, a love match or something else. In any relationship, but especially one with a large age gap, it's really important to understand each other's expectations and be clear on how you're going to compromise.