Look up zero sum approach to relationships. Does it sound familiar?
Okay I found an article for you. This is not exactly what he is doing but in a way it actually is. Its within this framework of thinking and seems as destructive as straight up zero sum thinking. Basically it’s the idea that if one person wins the other has to lose and losing is not an option.
It almost sounds like he is trying to avoid this so much that he’s creating it to avoid it. Anyway the article should say more and more accurately. Its not sustainable though.
Orphan_Izzy t1_jegpsne wrote
Reply to My (20F) boyfriend (21M) seeks absolute fairness in the relationship and it's stressing me out by ThrowRA_Chinatsu
Look up zero sum approach to relationships. Does it sound familiar?
Okay I found an article for you. This is not exactly what he is doing but in a way it actually is. Its within this framework of thinking and seems as destructive as straight up zero sum thinking. Basically it’s the idea that if one person wins the other has to lose and losing is not an option.
It almost sounds like he is trying to avoid this so much that he’s creating it to avoid it. Anyway the article should say more and more accurately. Its not sustainable though.
The Zero Sum Bias