geez... some people in the replies are being really aggressive. obviously these women were in the wrong but it's not like they did him any harm. some of y'all need to calm down and redirect your issues

you've got a good point. not that OP did anything truly wrong, but when you've got your shield up constantly, anything can set you off, sadly. just don't take it personally OP and just be neutrally civil with them in the future

from what I've gathered "stud" tends to be a descriptor for the sexual preferences or role in the relationship, whereas "butch" describes the aesthetic and the gender. i can see why the former could be potentially offensive because it brings to light something private. but i could be talking out my ass, lesbians feel welcome to school me on this

calm down dude, it's not a sackable offense

oops 😬

in my opinion asking people about children is kind of personal, but i don't know the extent of your friendliness with them so I can't make that judgement.

i also want to ask, are you living in a particularly queer-friendly area? are they originally from there? i ask because it could be that they're accustomed to navigating their relationship in an unfriendly environment and so have had to keep their guard up around anything relating to their relationship and sexuality. in that case their reaction would make more sense.

furthermore, it could be that they're used to showing interest (or at least feigning interest) towards customers because the customers seem to like it, but customers never return the interest so they don't expect those kind of questions

just some theories