>do I lose the additional 260 lbs

Oh honey, that's going to be the quickest weight you'll ever drop - get rid!!

Also.. can we just talk about how your current weight is sti less than his weight? What's his problem

I think she's already aware that if you found out how many people she's been with you'll leave her. Which from what you've posted here is a very real possibility, that's why she's asked you so pointedly.

To me body count just doesn't matter at all, you could have slept with 6 or 600 people and it makes no difference (although I'd be curious about the 600 lol)

I think you need to gey your head straight before you have the conversation - if it isn't an "acceptable" number to you what are you going to do? If she genuinely doesn't know what are you going to do?

And then I'd just say, look let's just get an awkward conversation out of the way, how many people have you been with? And go from there.

Anecdotally though, everyone I've met with a low number of sexual partners has had really messy divorces and regretted marrying with so little experience. All my old ho friends (and me!) Are much happier/secure in our relationships. So I just wanted to pitch it's not always black and white :)

If the sexy time was ok it'd definitely work on me tbh

Its still treatable fairly easily though isn't it?

Lol just go get the STD test and give her the clean bill of health once you get it.

Then text her being like "so is it the scabies or are you itching to see me again?" 😅

Edited to add - always use protection too!!

I really think you'll need to talk to him about it again tbh

Yea it's really bizarre.

Maybe you could try talking to him about it again from a "are you OK?" Approach.

It's not normal to not know what you're partners doing at weekends.. how can you plan things with them if you don't know.

It's really hard and I get that. Have you had a think about the questions above?

Honestly, my first guess would be house work and quality time. But that'd just an educated guess lol

Yea same.

I'd be like, ok, bye then. But after a year I can understand why you wouldn't want to.

OK, it sounds like she's told you before and you're not hearing her.

These are the things to ask yourself:

What pisses her off most in the world? What is happening when she begins to look exasperated, sad or annoyed? How much quality time do you get together? How much time does she get to look after herself?

I'm really generalising her but quite often women do all the emotional labour in a relationship & to me it sounds like that's what's happening for you you just don't see it. However I could be completely wrong which is why I've listed out the above

Yea this.

It wasn't a respectful way to tell you though, so talk to ger and if she's arsey with you maybe reconsider the relationship

I don't think it's particularly weird to send pics to friends in a sports bra.

If they know me they've probably seen me in a bikini or a sports bra on at least twice so I wouldn't think much of it.

However it's likely been the catalyst that's made him think he shouldn't be friendly with you anymore

It sounds like he has feelings for you and he's trying to create a healthy boundary between both of you to respect your relationship.

I would just let him tbh. I would respect him and let him make the first move in future