You asked her basically, so her response was, "go sleep with male friend to get it out of the way and then date you".

Like, right there is reason to block this person out of your life.

Now she goes for lunch with said guy?

Lol.

Very very rarely do people change, even if he did, here you are on Reddit with Anxiety, which will never fully go away.

You need to look after yourself, before it is too late. I am 40 years old, I have made the same mistakes over and over, trusting people I shouldn't, dating people that were not right for me, now here I am, full of anxiety and a huge case of the can no longer be fucked with relationships because of decades of torture basically.

Why are you with him?

Like seriously? If this the relationship that you want in life? Where you get major anxiety when your boyfriend goes out or away for a couple of days?

Most people do not want to hear this, But people who cheat (he did), always do it again, and you're just wasting your time here.

Your own insecurities is a you problem, you should work on that, if you can't, don't be with anyone because all you're going to do is hurt 2 people, one being yourself.

However, this is not that major, just say sorry, ask him why her smiling was important, ask if she is ok.. You might find out your boyfriend is just being supportive of a friend.

The only slight downside I guess is, you have been together for over a year, if his friend is going through something, usually your partner would share minor details at some point.

So he was happy to see his female gay friend smile, possibly because she has been through something and barely smiles?

Did you ask the relevance behind it? Or just jumped to conclusions?

Yes.

End it and move on, that simple.

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