Phatcat15 t1_jd6403w wrote

Thanks friend… it’s kind of been a big fuck you from life lately but we have lots of family support and doing our best. I just pray it’s not the one two punch that happens sometimes when married couples lose a partner and the other follows shortly after. It’s going to be a rough time either way but there are so many people that have to deal with this - I’m just lucky I’m 38 and I’ve had them in my life that whole time.


Phatcat15 t1_jd60nvs wrote

It’s crazy my Dad has had Leukemia for 8 or so years now??? Maybe a bit longer? It constantly comes back but he did an experimental treatment at Dana Farber when he was diagnosed and he’s the only 1/300 people still alive. My mom is not doing quite so well with throat cancer - currently on her 2nd round of chemo and it’s really not looking good. It’s pretty adorable watching my leukemia dad take care of my cancer mom… but damn the big C can go suck a bag of dicks.

Watched the Fungi documentary on Netflix recently - was amazed to hear that there are some mushrooms out there that can fight back against cancer - or more accurately - amplify your defenses exponentially.


Phatcat15 t1_j9yp0om wrote

Totally fair - I overlooked the potatoe because I know for sure the origins of jerk chicken and I wasn’t aware the greens are actually from Africa but the only folks I know who talk about them where I’m from are black. It was crass of me but now I get to learn more about what I’m commenting on so thank you


Phatcat15 t1_j9vl948 wrote

Fair enough… I literally had no clue what they were. Apparently there is also dandelion recipes that are similar? I just got a kick out the kid I asked - his family was hilariously southern - like his grandma used to make sweet potato pies which I don’t really ever see from the northerners I’ve been around my entire life. He was literally looking at me like - I can’t believe you don’t know greens… and I was looking at him like - I can’t believe you think I have any idea what you’re talking about.


Phatcat15 t1_j9vjxzt wrote

Nah I’m not about sweeping shit under the rug - it’s what I thought of right away and if it’s racist then I’m willing to own that. I love my dark skin friends - but we all say dumb shit - so if it’s not funny or not true I might be an ass but better to find out sooner then later


Phatcat15 t1_j9utlz2 wrote

As a northern white - am I wrong? I didn’t even know what collard greens were until I was in my mid 20s. I even asked a southern black kid to explain it to me (because that’s what he told me he requested be part of his birthday dinner) he just said ‘you know … greens.’ I was like alright yeah I have no idea what he’s talking about so I’ll figure it out on my own.


Phatcat15 t1_j93xh3e wrote

Oh they were the lucky ones (who died immediately)… the horror show for years afterwards is the real tragedy. It figures no one in Japan took Yamamoto seriously enough… he was a military genius and knew exactly what it would take to win the war - and openly questioned if anyone else in command understood what was to happen.


Phatcat15 t1_j58h2bq wrote

TBH I think you’re protecting yourself by blaming alcohol. It’s never an excuse - and you need to examine your own behaviors and thoughts without trying to shield it by blaming the booze. It’s clear you didn’t black out - so this is 100% on you regardless if booze made it easier to make a choice it sounds like you would take sober.