Clearly not a homie.

Alright everyone. Chill!

Three words. Talk to her. No point telling reddit about this. If you felt uncomfortable with what you did then talk to her about it. If you’re messing with any of these kind of activities you should 100% have a safe word and as long as the two of you communicate you will always be on the same page and you won’t have to worry like this.

“It Follows” is dope.

I feel like I end up saying this to a lot of TIFU posts but you should get over this. If she said she doesn’t see it as an assault and you don’t remember it then it wasn’t really an assault. Just maybe don’t get blackout drunk anymore and move on.

I’m sorry to hear that he turned out to be a shitter. People are confusing as hell. Go out with some friends and SAFELY fuck a stranger.

But every statement of opinion is inherently two sided don’t you think? By saying that you are in favor of anything you’re also saying that you aren’t necessarily in favor of something else. For example if you loved every flavor of ice cream then you’re unlikely to say unprompted that you like rocky road ice cream. Because there would be no point in singling out that flavor if you thought they were all equal. Just like if you thought all humans were born with an innate ability to drive then you wouldn’t specify men. I understand that in this case he was just using a saying that he’s probably heard somewhere but if someone hasn’t heard that saying before then they might be looking at it from a different perspective and to them it sounds biased or prejudicial.

This is the wrong take and I’m afraid your logic is a bit warped. Talking about rain in the summer isn’t the same thing. It’s fine to say you like something if that’s your preference but Summer isn’t the same qualifier as driver. For example he could have even said “I like males in the Summer” and there would be no issue, but if he says “I like male doctors” the qualifier of a specific job or task is where it becomes a problem.

Easy fix dude. Never make gendered statements at work. You just don’t say Men __________ or Women __________. One because it’s stupid but two because every company has an HR department that might want to talk to you.

Yeah there are still some big question marks there. I guess my point though is that if the story we heard is true and if we gave OP the benefit of the doubt then maybe homeboy wasn’t as straight as we were lead to believe. According to OP is was straight guys idea to drink with him. Maybe it just went further than he expected and now his form of denial is to attack OP. I’m thinking about this situation too much for having to stake in it lol. I just can’t wrap my head around “accidentally” having sex with a male friend.

Wait though... were talking about consensual sex right? I don’t see why that makes OP the bad guy like some people are saying. Based on what you said you didn’t actively sabotage his relationship with the ex and only you know if you did anything predatory but you didn’t say that you did. As a straight man I’ve gotten drunk af with best friends after breaks ups and one thing never led to another. Sure as far as I know my friends aren’t gay but even if they were I wouldn’t end up f-ing them the day after a break up.

Am I missing something?