Pretty much what I was trying to say. I was such a fool to to accept that logic. Looking back to it whenever we'd talk about an issue she'd always shift the blame on me. Now, 2 years later, I can hardly believe how much stupidity I ended up putting up with and how much I tried to justify and rationalise her poor behaviour

The isolation and gaslight can be very real and I'm sorry to hear that you went through something similar as well

Hard disagree. That's what my manipulative ex kept telling me. Had I talked to a friend they'd help me realise how much of an awful person she was way sooner than I did.

Obviously don't go around telling your problems to random people, but there's no reason not to talk about it with your friends