This is the trade-off that comes with living with your folks. They’re likely too set in their ways to change. All hard decisions are between two bad options.

Headphones for him??

Nah, he’s fine. But I’m worried this nitpicking might be you trying to find reasons to break off the engagement. Is this really the person you want to marry or are there actual issues?

If this is traumatizing for you you shouldn’t be dating while you receive professional counseling. If that’s hyperbole you might be able to work through this insecurity yourself.

It’s not intrinsically a problem. Lots of people can enjoy saucy photos, and even full-on porn and experience no negative effects on their relationships.

So is it a problem for you? That’ll vary from person to person. And only you can decide. If it is, know before hand where you draw the line. Any bikini pic or just sexualized ones? Is it just the liking or is the viewing a problem? What about porn? Remember to think about how you draw this line affects his life, banning him from seeing his sister’s beach vacation photos would be too much. Tell him you want to discuss y’all’s sexual media consumption and be ready for him to tell you what he’s not comfortable with you viewing either. And remember he can choose to walk away from the relationship over this, but that just means you’re not compatible.

I’m gonna be honest, if you’re not willing to handle someone not wanting a relationship with you in a mature way she made a fantastic decision. Furthermore, dating someone you’re not attracted to is never a regrettable choice. The alternative is to waste everyone’s time in a doomed relationship. Move on

That’s not normal and he needs to talk to a medical professional. That could be depression, mono, epilepsy, and a bunch of other illnesses.

What’s his engineering degree in? It’s not unusual for companies to have weird domain-specific engineering titles and for people to refer to themselves as a more general engineer. Was it production engineer on the title? Pay’s still suspicious if that’s gross or net without really high deductions set.

The phone grabbing’s more disturbing to me. How long have y’all been dating? Also no, not all men lie and you should shoot for better for yourself

Asking that many girls out is part of your problem. Women want to date people who like them, not people who like the idea of them. Reflect on what you’re looking for and don’t jump from crush to crush so fast.

Also lots of people don’t have a committed relationship at your age

There’s a good chance part of this is just you’re sexually frustrated, again.

Waiting for marriage comes with a real risk of finding out you’re not sexually compatible. If that risk isn’t worth whatever benefits you see in waiting for marriage, you’re not compatible.

Did you move to a new area recently? This is very culture-dependent.

The relationship was already dead and you dropped a nuke on it just to make sure. Leave each other alone. And this cheating habit has a real potential to ruin your next relationship, you really ought to work on that if you want to find happiness

Are you even interested in casual sex in general? People are all different and painting everyone and their relationships with a broad brush doesn’t work. Your gf needs to understand you’re a person with your own needs (that aren’t just sex with randos) and wants and you don’t see yourself wanting to branch out in a few years.

Doesn’t text you much when he’s out socializing with people and inviting a mixed gender group to his house isn’t necessarily a problem, but you’re the one who knows him and if he’s trustworthy. Are you getting a bad vibe because he’s given you a reason not to trust him or because you’ve had bad experiences with other people in the past?