No it's not. You still have to love yourself through all of that. In fact if all that is happening you only have to love harder. The statement holds and will.

Life the thing which threw hard curve ball. I thought I was handling things well but then I did something stupid. Now I have to tell myself constantly to focus on the growth that comes from this.

At least you have acknowledged that it hurts. When my sister died I was more consumed by guilt. I was thinking of everything I didn't for her. I ground peace in knowing that that's not how she would want me to live my life. It still hurts when I remember the tough times but it feels amazing remembering our best times together.