i think a lot of abusive people rely on this principle to keep their partner silent, compliant, and maybe even gaslit.
talking through relationship issues with close (trusted) friends can help you identify red flags decrease stress, gain perspective, etc.
this is why we go to talk therapy. Our brains benefit from talking through situations and it helps us work through our fight/flight response. Our romantic partner is too close to the situation to help us work through it and not everyone is comfortable/has access to therapy.
I think that this mindset of "staying silent" about your relationship is a very outdated view that does not benefit anyone and isn't even how we were originally designed as communal beings. Traditionally, we have elders in our communities so that we can ask for wisdom. Let's not be so painfully prideful when it comes to our homes.
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Reply to LPT: Try to keep problems with you and your significant other between the two of you. by Pale_Perception_4927
i think a lot of abusive people rely on this principle to keep their partner silent, compliant, and maybe even gaslit.
talking through relationship issues with close (trusted) friends can help you identify red flags decrease stress, gain perspective, etc.
this is why we go to talk therapy. Our brains benefit from talking through situations and it helps us work through our fight/flight response. Our romantic partner is too close to the situation to help us work through it and not everyone is comfortable/has access to therapy.
I think that this mindset of "staying silent" about your relationship is a very outdated view that does not benefit anyone and isn't even how we were originally designed as communal beings. Traditionally, we have elders in our communities so that we can ask for wisdom. Let's not be so painfully prideful when it comes to our homes.