Im not sure of the right things to say but this is what I’ve done for a friend in the past who’s mother passed away somewhat recently. I started by saying something along the lines of “I know you’re sad and I just want to say I’m sorry for your loss, I’m also proud of you for being strong this long.” Then I asked her things like “What was she like?” “What was your favorite thing about her?” “What do you miss about her?” “What’s your favorite memory of her?” All while emphasizing it’s normal to be sad. It’s okay to grieve over a lost loved one. It’s not going to be something that just goes away. You’ll always miss them, but try to think of all the good and even the bad times you had together. & when she answered those questions I asked her I told her that her mother seemed like a truly great woman, but the beautiful thing is that you’re just like her and your carry those parts of her on with you.
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Reply to LPT REQUEST: What to say when someone brings up the death of their loved one that happened years ago. by Interesting_Ad7785
Im not sure of the right things to say but this is what I’ve done for a friend in the past who’s mother passed away somewhat recently. I started by saying something along the lines of “I know you’re sad and I just want to say I’m sorry for your loss, I’m also proud of you for being strong this long.” Then I asked her things like “What was she like?” “What was your favorite thing about her?” “What do you miss about her?” “What’s your favorite memory of her?” All while emphasizing it’s normal to be sad. It’s okay to grieve over a lost loved one. It’s not going to be something that just goes away. You’ll always miss them, but try to think of all the good and even the bad times you had together. & when she answered those questions I asked her I told her that her mother seemed like a truly great woman, but the beautiful thing is that you’re just like her and your carry those parts of her on with you.