Just be aware that you're the one who wants change. So you're the one who had to take ownership of this, getting the list together etc.

Also if you want to to encourage good habits a d train him, then you need to praise and reward him fir his efforts.

Divide and conquer. Sit down with him with a big list of all the chores and Divide them up one by one. Then both agree to have all your own chores done by a certain time on a certain day each week. Each of you should be 100% responsible for certain chores.

Did you find it helpful? Did issues get resolved?

Marriage counseling

Why don't you lend him the 15k to pay off tne loan, and come up with an agreed payment plan, $1,500 a month for 10 months.

That's a separate discussion to have with him, completely separate from his loan repayments..

How much does he owe, and what was the loan for?

Separate finances then.

I would just leave it alone. His finances are his issues, he probably sees any inquiries you're making as nagging.

It really depends on how you handle your finances. It kind of sounds like you have separate finances.

>My question is, could a girl be so heartless to come back to a man just for the sake of the security even if she doesn’t love him?

Yes

Now that being said, perhaps she is genuinely remorseful for her mistakes. You could tell.her exactly what the issues were, and so.long as she's willing ro work in fixing them you'll.g8be her another chance, but that not going to start with her moving back in, that's 6-12 months away.

I don't understand why they are telling you this shit. In any relationship I've had no one has ever gone into that level.of detail. The most graphic share has been that they weren't fond of doggy style as a previous partner pretty much only did that one position as they liked to be dominant

That's not a good solution. You guys need to go to marriage counseling and learn how to communicate with one another.

The silent treatment or stonewalling is a very serious form of emotional abuse, and you shouldn't tolerate it. She's basically punishing you like a child for something you did (by withdrawing her attention and affection), instead of talking about the issue like an adult.

I think what you're getting at is that you don't understand how someone would go back to a person who treated them like shit.

What typically happens is that people remember the good stuff and block out the bad shit that happened. It's usually a self worth or self esteem issue.