This isn't about you. You've done nothing wrong. There is nothing wrong with you.

But she's not ready for serious and that's valid, too.

Do yourself a favor and when a woman says to you, "I want to date but I'm not ready to get serious.", tell her "No thanks." and walk away.

Why is that though? Why is your entire sense of self-worth connected to a woman you briefly dated who was completely honest with you about what she wanted from day one?

It seems like she enjoyed your company, but you wanted to get serious, and she didn't. So, she did the right thing and left you. That doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you or that you aren't worth having a relationship with. It only means that she was not the right woman to start a relationship with.

Here's what might be a novel idea.

Stop answering her calls.

Stop responding to her messages.

If you see her in public, walk the other way.

Block every avenue of contact she could possibly use to get ahold of you.

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And for the love of whatever gods you believe in, stop fucking her.

I fail to understand what's so great about this woman in the first place. She was having an emotional affair with you. Have you ever heard that saying, "If they'll cheat with you, they'll cheat on you."?

Move on. Keep it civil at work. But move the fuck on. Find someone to date who doesn't think it's ok to have an inappropriate relationship with a workmate while they have a partner sitting at home.

ETA: Dating coworkers in almost never a good idea.