No I don’t think you’re crazy or that you should break up. Therapy helps. Trust me.

Then take him with you, if he’ll go. A professional will be able to help you communicate what’s going on in a constructive way and will be able to advise him on how to work with you.

You need to talk to a professional. Honestly, that’s all I’m gonna say to this. If you want to save this relationship you need to work on yourself as well as work on the relationship.