Sissy63

Sissy63 t1_jcsg6cq wrote

Reply to [discussion] What helps you combat the “I’m wasting my life” mentality? by brooke512744

First of all, good for you reaching out to people. This is my take on things: Everybody - Everybody at times feel less than, non motivated, lazy, in limbo, etc. Circumstances and life changes can screw you up as well. I am an older woman who has been where you are. (I survived it) When things got bad enough that I was calling in sick cuz I was too depressed to get out of bed at least once a week, even with therapy, I started making a recurring daily calendar entry - 6:00 wake up. 6:30 meditate or thank the Universe for SOMETHING, 7:00 shower, 7:45 get out door for work. Get rid of toxic people, keep social media (phone/computer) time very minimal, compliment 2 people every day, when negative thoughts come you can train your brain to deflect them with a different mindset (google it) More than anything, you are you. I always thought I should have been better, smarter, prettier, nicer, blah blah blah - I came to realize I am so much happier and complete if I pay more attention to other people’s happiness. With age comes acceptance of yourself. Maybe you’re just regular. So what? You’re important to somebody, I am sure. Chill out. Go to work. Be nice. Stop worrying about life - it will happen with or without your participation, so try to participate.

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Sissy63 t1_j8w2mbv wrote

Reply to [Text] How do you fix your life in your 30s after wasting about 8 years unemployed and living with family by sleeplessbearr

My son was ADHD, non motivated, didn’t want to go to school, too many video games, no direction. He was in his early 30’s with no good future. He finally got sick of seeing his friends making good money, etc etc - he found a job that paid him to train while he studied for the national board (pressure vessel/boiler inspector) took him a year.

He’s now 37, makes great money, has a company car, bought a home and is doing great. He’s not perfect but my point is - your 30’s is the time to get your head out of your ass. You have nothing to be worried about - if you can find something that pays you while you train (I’d check into CO2 or boiler inspectors) you have plenty of time to turn things around, but do it now. You CAN.

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