Threatening self harm in response to you being unhappy, or wanting to leave is ABUSE. Hes saying what he has to to maintain control over you. Do not tolerate this, it's a dangerous situation for you both.
If he's in such a bad spot that you leaving over not being treated well is going to cause him to self harm, you are in no position to help him anyway. Contact someone on his end that can watch him, a friend or family member, help find mental health resources if you're feeling generous, then get out.
His health and safety IS NOT your responsibility. It's a shitty situation but you absolutely can not light yourself on fire to keep someone warm. You are your first responsibility. Any energy you have after you've ensured your own happiness and safety is what you give to others, no exceptions.
SmallTownMortician t1_iujrw9b wrote
Reply to My bf is threatening self-harm because of a conversation we had by chucklago555
Threatening self harm in response to you being unhappy, or wanting to leave is ABUSE. Hes saying what he has to to maintain control over you. Do not tolerate this, it's a dangerous situation for you both.
If he's in such a bad spot that you leaving over not being treated well is going to cause him to self harm, you are in no position to help him anyway. Contact someone on his end that can watch him, a friend or family member, help find mental health resources if you're feeling generous, then get out.
His health and safety IS NOT your responsibility. It's a shitty situation but you absolutely can not light yourself on fire to keep someone warm. You are your first responsibility. Any energy you have after you've ensured your own happiness and safety is what you give to others, no exceptions.