Do yourself a favor and listen to the comments/ yourself and leave already It doesn't matter if you both "have permission" to go though eachothers phones, what matters is that you feel the need to have to. You yourself said the relationship has trust issues. He's trying to hide stuff from you, and it's about his ex too

Why the flying fuck are you in this relationship because there's obviously no communication or trust. Is the sex just that good?

Okay I think we can all agree Op sucks for keeping said old videos.

BUT CAN WE TALK ABOUT THE BF MORE?? this man is guilt tripping, emotional abusing op and isn't respecting op's boundaries about not wanting sex and keeps bugging them about it

PLUSS CAN WE PLEASE PAU ATTENTION TO THE PART WERE THE BOYFRIEND SEND OP'S VIDEOS TO HIMSELF WITHOUT PERMISSION ?????

sure op sounds like they might suck some but good fucking god how is everyone ignoring the Gigantic red flag of a guy this is???