StarryCloudRat
StarryCloudRat t1_jegrkg6 wrote
“My boyfriend says I’m not allowed…”
Nope, he doesn’t get to decide what you’re “allowed” to do. He doesn’t have authority over you!
Sounds like you both just have different perspectives on alcohol, and there’s no right or wrong. Personally I only drink with other people because I see it as a social thing, but there are plenty of people who enjoy having a drink at home in the evening. The only thing that’s wrong here is the fact that this is an argument and not just a difference of opinion.
StarryCloudRat t1_jecoey6 wrote
Because he doesn’t want to care about you. It’s not like he’s trying to be caring and is struggling… it doesn’t seem like he’s interested in trying to be sensitive at all. Which, based on what he’s saying, is probably because he doesn’t care about women generally.
StarryCloudRat t1_jeco1du wrote
Reply to I (F 21) got tired of waiting for the man I love (M 25) and I had sex with someone else and don’t know how to feel by [deleted]
If you’re not exclusive with this guy, doesn’t sound like you did anything wrong. But in the future, I wouldn’t just have sex with people out of frustration with someone else.
StarryCloudRat t1_j6p7lyv wrote
Reply to My (23m) girlfriend (24f) still has videos and pictures of her ex on her phone by Far_Cardiologist6247
I think it’s weird to expect someone to delete all evidence of their past relationships once they’re in a new one. They were an important part of her life, there’s no more reason to delete them than you would delete pictures of a dead family member or a friend you lost touch with. What feels threatening to you about her seeing a picture of her ex?
StarryCloudRat t1_j6p64qz wrote
Reply to I (M22) got broken up with by GF (F20) -dating 3 months- Is this apology note appropriate to send? by [deleted]
Sounds like a great apology. Acknowledging what you did wrong, without expecting anything from her in return.
StarryCloudRat t1_j2e0axl wrote
Sounds like he’s a narcissist.
StarryCloudRat t1_iukbojz wrote
Reply to My (M31) partner (F27) of 2 years wants to leave because the past 3 months have been rocky. by larsdan2
Respect her decision. If there’s anything you could have done to change her mind, she’s probably already told you about it.
StarryCloudRat t1_iukb1ah wrote
Sounds like you don’t want to be married any more. And guess what? You don’t have to be married.
StarryCloudRat t1_iukaiet wrote
To answer one of your questions: suggesting a threesome as a way to try and get over insecurity and jealousy is a really bad idea. That kind of sexual encounter can get messy and unpleasant very quickly if someone is doing it for the wrong reasons.
Let’s clarify what you already know, and have said yourself: your girlfriend didn’t do anything wrong. She was single, her sexual partners were consenting adults. It’s also pretty normal to remain friends with someone you once had a sexual relationship with, especially if you were friends beforehand. So, the question is… if you stay together, are you going to accept that and move forward, or are you going to seethe for years about how uncomfortable you are about it?
If you feel like you can’t handle the fact that she once slept with two of her friends, and is continuing to be friends with them? It’s probably not fair to either of you to continue a relationship with each other.
StarryCloudRat t1_jegua04 wrote
Reply to comment by MoonchildEm96 in Withholding sex in a situationship/relationship - bad thing or not? F26 & M25 by MoonchildEm96
Yeah, that sounds like a line to make you feel guilty for not wanting to have sex whenever he does.