Stats_n_PoliSci t1_ja6t18l wrote

You’ll lose friends you go out to eat with. If you’re trying to date, you’ll lose dates. You might not lose them all, but you’ll lose all the decent ones. You’ll get subpar food and service if you return.

And then there’s the fact that you’re harming your server without helping anything. But that’s not about you, so it sounds like you don’t care about it.


Stats_n_PoliSci t1_ja5urd2 wrote

That's a story about an amazing friend. In 5 years you'll laugh about it. Until then, ignore it and go back over when invited... maybe put a little more distance between yourself and the wife until it's clear both she & husband are comfortable again. You sound like a godsend of a friend.


Stats_n_PoliSci t1_j80gbjs wrote

This will clearly be an unpopular opinion, but I’m with your grandparents, mostly. They are your guardians right now. Your mom is unfortunately unreliable and maybe not trustworthy. You didn’t tell anyone they could trust that you were ok. They are deeply scared that you will face the same issues as your mom.

Your grandparents could have asked your mom. But she’s effectively sick right now, and not reliable. Your grandparents could try to talk more and control less. It sounds like you could also try to communicate better. Frankly, a family therapist sounds like they could be helpful in improving your family’s communication.

Experiencing some social embarrassment because your grandparents love you is far from the worst thing in the world. And they clearly love you.


Stats_n_PoliSci t1_j4k1gk5 wrote

I’m amused by your assumption that the things we are 300,000 years ago didn’t make us sick.

It’s also interesting that you think our highly omnivorous teeth were primarily used to eat meat. Plants have plenty of nutrition our bodies readily use even while being low calorie. And back then, high sugar fruits were likely common in the tropical regions. They certainly thrive today in the wild areas of the tropics, if a different variety than would have existed back then.


Stats_n_PoliSci t1_iyd8hfw wrote

You’re reading way too much into the prologue. While correct in the context of the prologue, it’s giving you a very misleading perspective on Clare. The prologue sets up the story, but does not always, or often, give you a good perspective on the characters. It’s jarring to those of us who have read the book, especially since you don’t say in your post that you haven’t read the book yet.