Make it non negotiable. Choose what times you will be going to the gym during the week and go. Don’t think about it, don’t procrastinate. Set an alarm on your phone. You’re busy during this time. It’s a commitment.

Taking care of yourself isn’t always going to be fun but it’s a necessity like doing chores and paying bills. Just fit it in your schedule like any other appointment and don’t question whether you “feel” like going or if it sounds fun that day, unless you’re sleep deprived or sick.

Start slow. Good for you for starting now! Exercise is so important for both mental and physical health. The most important thing is being consistent, not doing super hard workouts and then burning out. So start with what you think you can maintain. Even a 15 minute workout makes a huge difference to your overall health and energy, so start there. Can you commit to 15 minutes a day of walking, dance, abs, weights, or bike? There’s no wrong way to exercise, you’ve just got to move. Start with 15 minutes, 3x a week minimum. It’ll give you more energy and then you’ll be able to do 30 min. And then more from there! Maybe you’ll find a class you enjoy like Zumba or yoga!

People get discouraged when they think they have to exercise for an hour or it’s useless and that’s simply not true. Start small. If you have a few bad days and don’t workout at all, no problem, just start again the next day! This a lifelong habit!

You’re both toxic. Just breakup. You’re clearly not going to get over the resentment and trying to get back at him just makes everything worse.

I’m so sorry that sounds terrible. I’d tell you to scale it back, if you can’t with work, then with school, but it seems like you’re really close to the finish line. If it is too much, there is no shame in going part time and graduating later.

That said, to stay motivated, visualize your future. Visualize your career. Picture who you want to be next year, in 5 years, in 10 years. I guarantee that person finished their degree and you’re so close. When you don’t want to push forward, remember that future you. You can do this!

If you can’t help yourself or have no purpose, help others. Volunteer somewhere, help a charity, help an animal shelter. Doing good in the world will help give you purpose.

When I had cancer I felt real sorry for myself until I started talking to other cancer patients that were new to treatment. I helped so many people with their questions and just as support since I’d been through it, I was asked to work with the oncology social worker. It made me feel so much better, stronger, and it almost made me feel like what I went through had a purpose. At least if I had to go through such a hard time, I helped tons of people because of it.