You didn’t do anything wrong, it’s understandable your bf isn’t comfortable coming out at the moment, but it’s also understandable you want to go out and not have to be in secret. You should be supportive of your bf and hopefully the family friend will not out him, but you didn’t do anything wrong.

I think going out on a date (30mins away) was definitely not unreasonable to ask, op shouldn’t have to hide himself. The one who should be thoughtful is the family friend.