It’s when you feel like you aren’t good enough - you are a fraud and just faking being competent and own day everyone will find out. Usually it’s in the context of a job. For example, if you’re a business executive in a big meeting with company bigwigs giving a presentation - you feel like you actually have no idea what you’re talking about. I’m a teacher and because of all the responsibility and many expectations of being a teacher - it’s very common for teachers to feel like they aren’t really doing a good job. Like when I write report cards, I will say to myself ‘who am I to say if this kid is meeting or not meeting expectations?!’ And I have to keep reminding myself that I am a trained and experienced educator.

You said you texted him once, what was your response to his ‘so excited’ comment? Is it possible it sounded unenthusiastic and he thought you weren’t interested? Also, texts aren’t totally foolproof, sometimes they just don’t go through and get lost in some void.

If it is ghosting, you need to step back and look at it without emotion or feelings. He’s a rude jerk! Count your blessings that at least he showed you what a dick he was BEFORE you met! How annoying would it be if you had met in person, liked him AND THEN he showed you his true colours?!