It seems clear that each of you didn’t do your best at handling the situation or reading the signs the other was giving. Either of you could’ve done better. Leaving in the middle of an argument works for some people but to other people, it appears like you are bailing out rather than resolving conflict.
You need to figure out how she works and she needs to figure out how you work so you can both find middle ground and do a better job of reading each other’s signals earlier and clearer so you don’t get to these conflicts.
Since she’s not available, I’ll ask you: was this time critical were you just were excited because you are just finished your writing? Once it was obvious, she wasn’t ready to do it, did you realize that and push anyway? Did you need to? Does it really mean she doesn’t care about you if she deferred on it? I know it’s hard to have something you care about go under recognized by someone you care about, but this is part of the same emotional maturity you insulted her for lacking.
TheTeethOfTheHydra t1_jeem789 wrote
Reply to Am I (28M) wrong for leaving my (27F) girlfriends house during an argument. by ImpactedDruid
It seems clear that each of you didn’t do your best at handling the situation or reading the signs the other was giving. Either of you could’ve done better. Leaving in the middle of an argument works for some people but to other people, it appears like you are bailing out rather than resolving conflict.
You need to figure out how she works and she needs to figure out how you work so you can both find middle ground and do a better job of reading each other’s signals earlier and clearer so you don’t get to these conflicts.
Since she’s not available, I’ll ask you: was this time critical were you just were excited because you are just finished your writing? Once it was obvious, she wasn’t ready to do it, did you realize that and push anyway? Did you need to? Does it really mean she doesn’t care about you if she deferred on it? I know it’s hard to have something you care about go under recognized by someone you care about, but this is part of the same emotional maturity you insulted her for lacking.