That makes a lot of sense, I appreciate that clarification! Knowing that, it really makes me believe that he doesn't believe you or trust you. That was an honest mistake that he never should have seen to begin with.

He's sounding pretty manipulative here. "Oh, you fucked them, but you won't fuck me?" Kind of vibe, but I could be off base there. And the fact he went into your phone without permission, possibly for jerk off material.... I'm sorry you're going through that. It really sounds like a serious conversation around personal boundaries and expectations needs to happen.

Quick question first, why did you download Tinder to begin with?

Wow, this is a lot to unpack. First question is why you still have that content on your phone? No judgement, just seems weird to me unless it's kept for self gratification or something?

Second, why is he going through your phone like that? Is it a trust issue, or do you have that kind of relationship where that isn't uncommon?

Best advice: Move on. The most adult thing to do is accept the rejection and move on. Anything more than that is creepy and petty.

It really sounds like she's suffering from depression. Maybe she should go see someone about that?