Then you should separate, seek therapy if you’re not already and get healthy for you and your baby. Wish you the best .

Assuming that’s all 100% true, unbiased and fair then that’s a different story

I understand you had an actual medical issue going on with the depression but your framing is very unfair. A loving partner can still be massively hurt or shattered by your actions and words. But I still think you may be dealing with depression, it doesn’t sound like you’re 100% okay with how you word and catastrophize things

I’m not excusing him because I don’t know him but maybe him being close and then distant is him battling his love for who he knows you are and his hurt/trauma from the woman you’ve been to him lately depression or not

Not confusing at all, some people are just dumb as fuck. Really “why not say wife or girlfriend” if people spent two seconds thinking they’d realize that it most likely didn’t apply