ThrowThrow117

ThrowThrow117 t1_j6n9fzt wrote

There's a picture of Anne Frank's father looking at attic where his kids were surviving. It's heartbreaking for so many reasons. But one of them is what you're talking about -- that we can be completely swept up in major situation that's bigger that us that leaves us with no control over the outcome.

That you can be going about your life and then BAM! A radical change can occur that will change everything about the trajectory of your life. It's maddening to me.

There's a few things that Tom Hanks does, physically, in the movie that resonate. One is where he's sitting on the beach after he realizes he's stuck. His posture and mannerisms say it. It's such a great piece of acting.

The other is the heavy vibe in the kitchen with his ex. From the moment he walks in his physical energy seems to just realize all at once that it's over. The idea and image that helped him survive doesn't exist anymore. It reminds of soldiers in WWII or Vietnam who were surviving on the thought of getting back to their significant other. Only to find out the whole time they were writing their SO was with someone else the whole time. God, that's just a mind fuck to think about.

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ThrowThrow117 t1_j6n8j6p wrote

The scene where he's at the bar and he tries to order a non-alcoholic drink. But the bartender, innocently, asks if "that's all he wants." And how that's all the invitation for an alcoholic to need.

The scene that REALLY got me was the scene toward the end in the hotel with the mini bar. He marvels at all the bottles but closes the fridge door. Only to pop right back in just a few seconds and go on a bender.

Those scenes were uncomfortably familiar for me. Drinking has only become a "problem" for me since Covid. But man, shit has spun out of control fast. I had been drinking responsibly for 18+ years before that. And in a matter of months it became an issue.

I'm not sober. But I'm getting everyone I know familiar with my problem. So they know they can't push me to "have one more" or stay later. And I just found out one of my best friends, who has been kinda MIA the last year, just went full sober. He's going to weekly meetings. He was my favorite drinking partner. I couldn't be prouder of him. It feels like the world is showing me the way out.

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