That is such a hard place to be, the one and only person on this planet that is allowed to touch you and give you that validation that you ache for in your very core. Can you tell I've been there, you need to make the time for counseling. If you can't see a way or you can't find anything that you can drop from your schedule. Then just get a divorce now before you guys hate each other to the point of it becoming bitter. There are video options available. If you SO isn't receptive and won't put the effort into counseling. See my comment about getting divorce. If you have kids you are teaching them what to expect and what to do in relationships. Even if you think they don't know about any of it. They are watching how you interact with your SO and will subconsciously use that as their benchmark for behavior. Daughters will be accepting of that treatment and sons will see his treatment as par for the course. If not for you do it for your kids. Secondly you deserve to have your needs met. You are important and worthy. You are strong and capable. Even if he won't do any kind of counseling with you. You need to get therapy on your own. It will help you learn how to validate yourself and give you the confidence to work on yourself and find your happiness without needing someone else. Hugs sorry for the novel. You got this sister!!!
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That is such a hard place to be, the one and only person on this planet that is allowed to touch you and give you that validation that you ache for in your very core. Can you tell I've been there, you need to make the time for counseling. If you can't see a way or you can't find anything that you can drop from your schedule. Then just get a divorce now before you guys hate each other to the point of it becoming bitter. There are video options available. If you SO isn't receptive and won't put the effort into counseling. See my comment about getting divorce. If you have kids you are teaching them what to expect and what to do in relationships. Even if you think they don't know about any of it. They are watching how you interact with your SO and will subconsciously use that as their benchmark for behavior. Daughters will be accepting of that treatment and sons will see his treatment as par for the course. If not for you do it for your kids. Secondly you deserve to have your needs met. You are important and worthy. You are strong and capable. Even if he won't do any kind of counseling with you. You need to get therapy on your own. It will help you learn how to validate yourself and give you the confidence to work on yourself and find your happiness without needing someone else. Hugs sorry for the novel. You got this sister!!!