Once you've achieved a goal, there's a sense of accomplishment, but followed by a sense of been there, done that. How you you top climbing Mt. Everest? You could find another goal, then another and another, but what do you do when you've run out?
"I'm gonna clean this house" is a goal. But that house will just get dirty again, so why bother? "I like a clean house" is a value. It motivates you to clean when you have a chance without worrying about it getting dirty again.
"I'm gonna travel to London" is a goal. But in your single-minded determination to get there, what else have you done? What are you going to do when you get there?
"I like to travel" is a value. Get out, explore look around, learn ways to appreciate what you're doing, learn about what you like about visiting new places, whether it be the art, the history or the food. One day, you'll get to London with the ability to appreciate where you are and have a far richer experience because of it.
"I'm gonna get my degree" is a goal too. How about instead "I really value education and want to expand and share my knowledge of X topic"?
Goals are fine , but don't make your entire existence into the pursuit of one goal after another. Turn your goals into values and life will feel more fulfilling and won't feel as rushed.
TrenchardsRedemption t1_ir7o50c wrote
Reply to Does Vienna wait for us, or is life a race against ourselves? [Discussion] by TreatThompson
OK, think Values instead of Goals.
Once you've achieved a goal, there's a sense of accomplishment, but followed by a sense of been there, done that. How you you top climbing Mt. Everest? You could find another goal, then another and another, but what do you do when you've run out?
"I'm gonna clean this house" is a goal. But that house will just get dirty again, so why bother? "I like a clean house" is a value. It motivates you to clean when you have a chance without worrying about it getting dirty again.
"I'm gonna travel to London" is a goal. But in your single-minded determination to get there, what else have you done? What are you going to do when you get there?
"I like to travel" is a value. Get out, explore look around, learn ways to appreciate what you're doing, learn about what you like about visiting new places, whether it be the art, the history or the food. One day, you'll get to London with the ability to appreciate where you are and have a far richer experience because of it.
"I'm gonna get my degree" is a goal too. How about instead "I really value education and want to expand and share my knowledge of X topic"?
Goals are fine , but don't make your entire existence into the pursuit of one goal after another. Turn your goals into values and life will feel more fulfilling and won't feel as rushed.