I'll be honest, I don't really care how you feel in this instance. It's not about you. It's about a trait you picked in a partner and now want him to be able to be a flashlight. It just does not work that way. Kindness gets shown to the people he interacts with. That is part of his essence. The kind man is kind because he wants to be good to others. His mom is part of it, you ma'am are part of it. You do not get to pick and choose when he is kind. You do not have that kind of controller. You get to pick him or not him. That's your locust of control.

You don't get to turn your attractive parts on and off like a flashlight. The kindness that drew you in is the same kindness you despise him showing others. It just doesn't work that way. Either learn to accept that this is part of why you chose him or pick someone who isn't as kind.

I'd tell you to be honest. You may not like yourself so much for saying your truth, you may be embarrassed about it, but at the end of the day if you're willing to put your ego aside and learn then a guy is going to generally think better of you.

No one comes fully equipped with all the skills necessary to be a good partner. You have to grow and learn just like everyone else.

First you need to select a starting point. What skill do you want him to learn or gain tonight? That's a choice that only you can make. Maybe you decide tonight is the night where I teach him to put his hands on my neck. Maybe you decide you want to make tonight about talking dirty to one another. Maybe you decide that you want to show you riding him in cowgirl or reverse cowgirl.

Pick one thing, tell him "this is what I want tonight". Ask him if he is comfortable trying that thing. Then in as hands on manner as is possible lead him. If you want to teach him about how much grip strength to put onto your neck, then show it by gripping his arm. If you want to teach a new position, lie down or assume the position for him and tell him to copy you. Give him the hand signals run down of what you'll do when you want to stop, ask what signal he wants to signal to stop. Have a dialog written up where you two act out a scene together. There are so many different ways to aid him in learning how to handle you.

First off you can't push past his comfort zone until he is comfortable moving that zone. In terms of being a teacher, the most gentle way you can handle the situation is to be very concise with your directions. You cannot expect to give him a list and he'll be okay the whole list mastered. It's more one step at a time, show me what you want. Tonight we'll try this. This time I want you to try doing this. Okay do you feel confident enough to try something new now? Those sorts of hands on slow build ups. Don't aim for him to be able to master every lesson in a single session. Aim to get a little growth out of him every session.

For me it's when I have at least 90% confidence that I can do better. It's never really about what you dislike about the person, it's about the probability that you can walk back into the dating market and be assured that you will pull a better deal rather quickly. There is no point in looking for a minor improvement, it's just not worth redoing all the time and effort it takes to connect just to get a minor upgrade. So you have to be certain that you're working with absolute awful conditions that you know you're not going to have trouble pulling better before you leave what you've already worked for.

If she has stopped considering what you want from a relationship then it's time to end it. I wouldn't end it over this being a single instance of her giving the cold shoulder, but if it is part of a larger trend of her ignoring your wants then it's time to leave. Cooperation is a choice on both ends, and if you two aren't giving what the other wants then it's just time to stop cooperating.

It's who you're picking my dear. You pick the best looking dude within 50 miles and he's looking for the sweetest deal of a woman in the closest 200. If the guy is someone you could imagine as the prom king, then if you're not the girl everyone sees as prom queen, you'll find you've wasted your time especially as men tend to be more harsh about looks than women are.

For lack of a better phrase, you got played my dear. Let the lesson be that you need to see actions and words in alignment before you allow yourself to step out of your comfort zone for some guy. In other words, if a guy isn't willing to propose to you right then and there, and he hasn't shown you that he wants to be making a home and a family with you then you should not treat his willingness to lie in bed with you be proof of his desire to walk by you for the rest of your lives. Guys and girls are different, sex for men isn't a sign of commitment, particularly as someone who wants to remain friends rather than lovers.

If I truly had to guess, this man just wants to get you to lay with him. He's got too many options to think that you're going to catch him. He's shown you that in multiple ways, by showing cold and putting on a lazy cooking performance (his words). He just wants to have the satisfaction of getting you to fall for him, to have a good night of fun, and then just move on to continued browsing for someone he feels worthy of his time and effort.