UnneccessaryC
UnneccessaryC t1_j2exek7 wrote
>he treats me like shit
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>makes no effort to spend time with me
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>good liar and constantly gaslights me
These alone are break up offences. You do not have to put up with this. You are not stuck. Make an exit plan and follow through. Start with a part time job and stop catering to him at home. He's an adult and is responsible for himself.
Anytime someone says "if you love me, you would do..." it is a manipulation tactic. It works because you love them so you feel you need do whatever they are asking. The truth is, if you were in a healthy relationship, there would be openness and trust. You are not in a healthy relationship. This is not worth your energy.
UnneccessaryC t1_j2etgxw wrote
I read this because I hate that women fear revenge and wanted to support but I'm afraid I just see avoidable drama here. It's not going to go well for anyone any which way. You're gone in two weeks, why not focus on something else?
UnneccessaryC t1_j6lcutu wrote
Reply to My husband (30M) wants kids in the future and I (26F) realized in the past months/years that I indeed don‘t by nocluesince1996
Yes, you should directly tell him that you do not ever want kids. Clear communication is vital for marriages. It is also something you should not give in to just because he wants them.