She needs the fastest pair of trainers going to escape you.

You screamed it out to sabotage her. That feeling of not knowing where that behaviour came from is cause you have serious issues with seeing her do well - and want to sabotage her in order to control her. Whether that stems from you being insecure or just a selfish, possibly misogynistic ass remains to be seen.

Wtf? And how exactly should OP have handled this? Her bf calls her late at night, scared out of his wits and OP just says, ‘Sorry babe, can’t come here. Rules are rules!’

Nope. That’s dumpable behaviour and if someone is doing you a effing favour, you can at least be reasonable in emergency circumstances.

Better to find this out. Now you know to trust your gut.

I think you need to come clean with your friend. I know it’s scary, but do you have any idea how soul-crushed he’ll be when he finds out what kind of woman he’s with, that his kid might not be his - or yours! - and you, his friend, just turned the other way and let him live in a house of cards raising possibly your kid?

Do the right thing and come clean. I really don’t think you could be prosecuted for rape. She doesn’t remember (or lied and said that) and there’s no evidence. Even if the baby is yours it’s not indicative of rape, just sex.

Hang on - hold the press - this is extremely relevant!!

You’re a non drinker and your ‘friends’ had no issue, problem or concern about you stumbling around drunk, making speeches and doing stand up that wrecked your relationship?? If (whilst regaling you with stories of your exploits), no one mentioned how out of character it was for you, or that they tried getting you to sleep it off, I think you just found out who spiked you. Sorry dude.

ETA: Get that tox screen and press charges on whoever spiked you, even if it was just with alcohol.

No one should have to be a saint to put up with their partner. That’s abuse.

I appreciate what you did was a one off, but you called her unattractive in front of alllll your friends. I don’t see how her self esteem can come back from that, unless she’s from an abusive background where she’s been taught to swallow her own feelings for others’ comfort.

Time to either get into therapy, or take this stuff about mean girls to your grave. Preferably both.

She also sounds chronically depressed. I hope she gets help.

Most of the time. Sometimes they get it wrong and sometimes you have to wait for a post to take off before the sensible non-knee jerk reactions start to roll in.

Wishing you peace and healing, OP.

Lol, I bet she thought:

Daaamn; this is what he’s been eating? He seems to really like it though, so I’ll try again. Nope! Can’t let him have it back though. It’ll set a precedent and it’s finders keepers round here!

Ummm, hate to say it, but you did something stupid, then repeated it 4 more times and the bird is the dumb one? She literally played you like a tune for extra food!