I’m not reading other comments I’m reading yours and mine.

You said he’s constantly throwing insults at girls and teachers, that doesn’t state that it’s sexism or implies as such. Insults towards girls/women aren’t automatically sexist, they can just be mean statements.

Cherry picking ambiguous statements you’ve made and then accusing someone of condoning sexism when you don’t explain details of your statements is just immature and as insulting as telling someone how to dress imo.

Learn the definitions, you’ll have a better understanding of the waffle you’re chatting right now.

I only know as much about the situation as you say, you never made any mention of sexist or derogatory comments so how can I condone that or imply I condone that when you have never mentioned that at all?

You’re now making up a narrative to make yourself feel better which is just ridiculous.

You say you aren’t judgemental and that it’s just him but you are now saying I condone sexism which is by definition judgemental and a completely unfounded accusation.

What a rollercoaster this conversation is.

What opinion are you appalled by? I haven’t said anything that’s shocking or controversial.

Good luck with your issue though, I hope you manage to resolve it using your own methods.

You are judgemental, you said the guy is an ass who insults people, is hard to be around and exposes himself to children younger than himself because he wears tight legging type trousers, and that it insults you.

All humans judge, it’s a natural thing in society so no need to shy away from that.

It just seems like you aren’t going to take in any advice about the situation or take any other perspective unless it is supportive of your view which is fine but I’m not sure you’re going to find the answers you’re looking for on here.

I’d state that telling others how to dress because you don’t like it is insulting but you disagree, that’s cool.

The only thing I’d suggest is speaking to others who also find it insulting and write/email a collective letter signed by all those who feel insulted and send it to the senior members of the faculty at your school outlining the issues you have and ways they can be dealt with in agreement with all those are insulted and see how that can be of any use. If no immediate change be persistent and then at least then you have proof of contact with the school about the concerns you have for any future issues being raised.

Are his genitals fully exposed and on show? I doubt it.

You seem to really not like this person which i think is clouding your judgement of the ridiculousness of your request. You can’t demand someone change because you don’t like their dress even if you find it insulting.

Imagine him telling you how to dress and how you’d feel. I’d imagine you wouldn’t take the slightest bit of notice either.

Have you spoken to the school about it and how it insults you?

Telling someone what to wear is pretty insulting. Imagine someone telling you what kind of underwear or clothes to wear because they don’t like the look of it and imagine how you’d feel.

God you’re such a bitch

And I hate it when people moan about the least important thing in the entire post, so I guess we all have to put up with things we don’t like.

You will do, it’s not a situation that has much immediate positivity and the benefits from it won’t be seen for a while because she’s still in crisis and your mind will be rocked by it all. Your lifestyle has changed drastically but you have to keep on trooping; it’s okay to feel bad, down and completely lost but know that there are people and places that you can go too to, to get help and support. You’ve got this dude, you just need to worry about the things that you can control and try your best one day at a time, the issues you can’t control are out of your hands.

You shouldn’t feel bad, she needs help because she has a pattern of behaviour that she cannot sustain; as proven by her trying to regain control by threatening to hurt herself if you go. She needs to be surrounded with people she doesn’t know who can make logical and rational decisions on her best interests without emotional attachment.

It’s a shit situation but she’s in the best place she can be. You need to prepare yourself for what comes next and this time apart can give you that breathing room to gather yourself and think about what the best plan is for you and your daughter. If you’re at the bottom the only way you can go is up! Good luck, I hope things turn around for the better for you all.