WoodpeckerFar9804

WoodpeckerFar9804 t1_iy7rz0b wrote

Reply to comment by Icy_Photograph412 in So I have this accordion... by X_PRSN

Op this is excellent advice. However if you choose a different route, I will gladly take it off your hands. I have several family members who collect accordions and button boxes. We go to the button box festival every year in Sharon, and one of my family members may be able to restore it, if not it would be cherished in our family. The fact that is has the story makes it even more appealing as we are sentimental folk.

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WoodpeckerFar9804 t1_itg9lgu wrote

Reply to comment by carlykerfuffle in Trying to meet people my age in the North Hills… please end me. by carlykerfuffle

“Who is going to be a great brother in law someday” your post resonates with me. I take care of everyone but myself it seems. I’m North of the city too, and you’re right it’s mostly red MAGA hats up this way.

My family harshly judges anyone I date ( even though their own marriages are shit) and I’ve had that same thought before- who can I date that will be acceptable to my family? I’m now at a point of not giving a fuck. I’m going to date who I see fit and they are not going to approve of anyone anyway.

I’ve been saying no as often as I reasonably can while still providing care and help but giving myself permission to step away once in a while.

Maybe tell your parents you are burned out so they can find alternative care for your brother at least one weekend a month, preferably every other weekend. He is technically not your responsibility. They may be upset at first but you matter. It’s honestly selfish of everyone to lean on you for care. Saying no or not this time is HARD for natural caretakers, but if you don’t, who’s going to take care of you when YOU BREAK DOWN? Good luck dear

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