I'm from the Pacific Northwest and I agree with you, actually. I think most people here are already established in their friend groups and not looking for new connections. On the west coast there's generally more of an openness to give new friends a chance.
It's literally like speed dating but just for making friends (although they also have dating events, never tried that myself). I moved here five months ago, and by attending once a month I have a pretty solid friend group by now - generally going out three or four nights a week. It's mostly people (20s and early 30s) who are also recent to the area.
Beyond that, maybe try just joining a volunteer group, adult sports league, or church community (of your choosing, there's tons of options around here) and being open about looking for friends. It takes time, and the holidays/midwinter is by far the hardest time of the year to meet anyone new. Good luck and happy holidays!
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I'm from the Pacific Northwest and I agree with you, actually. I think most people here are already established in their friend groups and not looking for new connections. On the west coast there's generally more of an openness to give new friends a chance.
If you're serious about making friends, here's what's worked for me, and others I've met in a similar situation: https://www.skipthesmalltalk.com/public-events?category=Boston
It's literally like speed dating but just for making friends (although they also have dating events, never tried that myself). I moved here five months ago, and by attending once a month I have a pretty solid friend group by now - generally going out three or four nights a week. It's mostly people (20s and early 30s) who are also recent to the area.
Beyond that, maybe try just joining a volunteer group, adult sports league, or church community (of your choosing, there's tons of options around here) and being open about looking for friends. It takes time, and the holidays/midwinter is by far the hardest time of the year to meet anyone new. Good luck and happy holidays!