The only 100% deal breakers are if both parties aren't committed to the relationship. Anything else can be worked through in theory, although basically everyone will draw the line at giving up major life goals or compromising core values.

And it's not always men with the higher libido too. Something a lot of people might not realize if they're used to the outdated ideas that men always want sex.

The only way I'd spend big on a wedding or ring is if someone were gifting those things to me. Ain't no way in hell I'd pay thousands out of my own pocket for something that could be better spent building our lives together.

A life with no real challenges will do that to someone. Boredom gets filled with drugs, realistic goals get swapped with delusions. It really does the person no favors in the long run and it's a shame that people have enabled her for so long. People only get really out of touch like that when they can afford to be.

Moving to a new city and getting a new job in your field is a massive risk assuming it's possible at all.

In the future I'd suggest not giving this kind of advice in this situation, it offers zero valuable insight and comes off incredibly condescending for no good reason.