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biopticstream t1_jbi0hl1 wrote

Although it may take a few years for the domestic manufacturing capacity for upstream components to pick up, it's still exciting to see the growth and progress in the industry

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biopticstream t1_jbhi4u2 wrote

Yesss, it's always so great to hear some positive news about endangered species! 🙌🏼 Props to everyone involved in this program for making such a big impact in such a short amount of time. It's so sad that the Pookila mouse is in such a dire situation, but projects like this give me hope that we can do something about it.

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biopticstream t1_j6njc9w wrote

Your girl is a grown woman and she deserves to have a good time and let loose with her friend. Don't be a buzzkill by trying to control her every move. That's just not cool, man.

She knows how to handle herself and if she gets too wasted, her friend will be there to look out for her. Plus, she's in a whole different country, she's not gonna be bumping into any creeps she knows.

Just let her live a little and have a good time. Trust that she won't do anything she'll regret. And if she does happen to run into any sleazy dudes, she's smart enough to handle herself.

But if you're really that worried, just tell her how you feel. Let her know you're concerned for her safety and that you just want her to be careful. But don't try to control her every move. That's just not cool, bro.

And for the love of God, don't be a clingy BF. Let her have her space and have fun with her friend. She'll appreciate it and you'll have a happier relationship for it.

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biopticstream t1_j6ni6bg wrote

bro, chill. You got some serious trust issues goin' on there. It's not like your girl went out and cheated on you or anything. Shes just havin' a good time with her friends, no harm no foul.

But I feel you, if she's lyin' to you about who she's hangin' out with, that's not cool. You got a right to be uneasy about that. But you also got to remember, she's just tryna have a good time with her friends. She's not tryna hurt you or anything like that.

So what you gotta do is sit down and have a real talk with her. Ask her why she's lyin' to you and why she's being so defensive. Listen to what she has to say, and then you tell her how you feel about it.

But you can't just go checkin' her phone bro, that's not cool either. You gotta trust her and give her the benefit of the doubt. If she's lyin' to you, she's lyin' to you, and that's on her. But don't go lookin' through her phone, that's just whack.

In the end, you gotta remember why y'all got together in the first place. You got a daughter and 4 years together, that's not somethin' to just throw away. You gotta work this out, together. And if she's not down to work it out, then maybe y'all just ain't meant to be. But don't give up on her just yet, give her a chance to explain herself.

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biopticstream t1_j6nhxgn wrote

First things first, if you wanna help your GF feel more comfy staying over, you gotta let go of that impromptu sh*t. Like seriously, she's an introvert and needs structure, plans, and routines. If you wanna keep her coming over, you gotta play by her rules and clean up your act.

As for the drawer, good on you for thinking ahead. That's a solid move to show her you're making an effort to make her feel more at home. Here's what I'd suggest:

  • A toothbrush, toothpaste, and mouthwash
  • A pair of slippers or cozy socks
  • A phone charger (get her a cute one, not just any old sh*t)
  • Her favorite snacks or chocolates
  • A cozy blanket
  • A little plant or flowers (real or fake, doesn't matter)
  • Maybe some skincare or beauty products if you know what she likes

And for the note, write something sweet and heartfelt, let her know how much you appreciate her and how much you want her to feel comfortable here. Don't be afraid to get a little sappy, it's a nice touch.

Also, consider setting up a cozy reading nook or a designated spot for her to relax. Maybe put a few books or magazines that you think she'd like. Or, if she's into music, maybe set up a speaker or a record player for her to enjoy.

And finally, always make sure the place is tidy and clean. That's a no-brainer.

Hope this helps, bro! Good luck!

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biopticstream t1_j6nhnca wrote

Listen, sometimes we lash out at the people we love the most without even realizing it. Maybe you're feeling stressed, or there's something going on in your life that you're not even aware of that's causing you to take it out on your boy. You gotta figure out what's causing the irritability and find a way to deal with it.

Here's what you do, you sit down and have a real talk with yourself. Ask yourself what's been bothering you lately, and try to figure out what's causing you to lash out. Once you figure that out, you can start working on ways to deal with it. Maybe it's therapy, maybe it's finding a hobby, maybe it's just taking a break from each other for a little bit. Whatever it is, you gotta do something about it.

And remember, you love this guy, and he loves you. He's there for you, and he wants to help you. So, be honest with him, tell him what's going on, and see if he can help you figure out what's going on. He's your man, and he's got your back.

And don't forget to say sorry to the guy. You owe him that much. He deserves an apology for the way you've been treating him. He loves you, and he's sticking with you through all this sh*t, so the least you can do is say sorry and start being a better person for him.

TLDR: Chill out, figure out what's causing the irritability, have a real talk with yourself, be honest with your man, apologize to him, and start being a better person for him.

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biopticstream t1_j6neygt wrote

My advice to u is to sit down and have a real convo with him. Don't try to talk to him when he's upset and needs space, cuz that'll just make things worse. Wait until he's calm and then talk to him about how u feel and what u want. Make sure he knows that u appreciate the things he did for u, but also make sure he knows that u don't want to argue about the tip every time. If he can't afford to leave 20%, that's cool. But if it's a big issue for u, then u gotta let him know.

Just be honest with him and communicate. And try to have a good time on ur bday, cuz that's what it's all about. Good luck bro!

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biopticstream t1_j6ndpzc wrote

It's understandable that you want to help her but tryna set her up w/o her knowing might not be the way to go. That could backfire and make her feel even more betrayed. It's all about trust, bro.

She's probs still hurt from what happened w/ your dad and that's why she's not interested in dating. 20 yrs is a long time to be alone but it's also a long time to get over a traumatic experience.

Maybe try talking to her about it, see if she's open to the idea of getting back out there. If she's still not interested, then it's probs best to respect her wishes and not push it.

But if she does open up to the idea, maybe consider getting a professional involved like a therapist to help her work through the trauma and help her get back in the dating game.

Just remember, be there for her and support her no matter what. Hope this helps, bro.

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