They definitely do their fair share of cleaning, cooking and childcare when they’re home! I’m a very messy person by nature so unless I keep up on my messes the house become a disaster, he is a very tidy person and having him cleaning up after me when he is home is okay sometimes, but is unfair to expect always

I’ve had a cleaner in the past and omg was it ever!!! Unfortunately I can’t afford it right now but I’m definitely getting one when I have the extra cash flow

Not always, but if he’s off for more that 2 days in a row it’s definitely something that needs to get done

This is a very insightful comment and I can definitely relate a bit! I taught myself the important life skills I didn’t get taught from my parents so maybe the insecurity I feel about my method of cleaning is a factor!!

The only issue my partner has expressed is wishing I’d throw his work clothes in the wash more often, instead of his every day lounging clothes lol. That’s easily resolved by him reminding me though! All the essential tasks are done always, we never have NO clean dishes, clothes, towels, etc. I would say my anxiety comes mostly from when he is home on weekends, or has extra days off work and my usual get it all done while he’s at work routine gets messed with! It’s almost like I get stage fright cleaning in front of people, or my cleaning style just doesn’t mesh well with other body’s in the house.. I know what works BEST for me, I’m definitely hoping I can get some tips to find what works just okay for me in terms of cleaning if there’s people home

Thank you! These are some super helpful starting point for me to think about.. I’m not sure why it’s hard for me so the first step seems like figuring that out! Honestly all of those questions could be a simple yes depending on the day! Lol