extropia t1_j8hvdtz wrote

That is really fascinating, especially the part where you describe the alertness it triggers. Anecdotally it does feel like the sweating that happens when one is suddenly scared/anxious seems different, like it suddenly starts seeping out of you without any of the physical work it 'normally' requires to produce.


extropia t1_j4ygxqh wrote

My 2c- Watching a loved one die really sucks no matter what, and it's stressful and very emotionally painful in a way that you just can't escape. Every day it gets closer and closer and you don't really get that "I'll feel fine in the morning" effect. That said, you really have to go easy on yourself and just accept your feelings without being guilty about them or wondering if they're appropriate in the moment.

It's also super easy to make everything about the person dying, since it kind of is, but that's a lot of pressure on them. On the other hand some people deal with stress by making everything about themselves, which is also something you have to avoid. In the end I found it best to treat it a bit like meditation- you accept emotions, situations, thoughts as they come, and you don't grasp too hard on any one thing out of fear or desperation. I found that helped put me in the moment and ultimately feel like I made the time worth it.


extropia t1_j4wjgoj wrote

Unfortunately movies like Interstellar (which I love btw) make it seem like simply entering a black hole would reveal all sorts of secrets of the universe to an observer. All we really know is that most of our physical models break down in there, and without a massive lineup of experiments and machines to conduct them to take into the black hole, let alone the current impossibility of doing so, it would be akin to you doing 5 tabs of acid and then telling the rest of us 'you've figured it all out'.

The latter would be a lot more enjoyable.


extropia t1_j4wgd05 wrote

Thank you and you too. It's really scary to watch a loved one take their livelihood in their own hands. In our modern society it can feel very unmoored, I guess, since we are so accustomed to experts and technology taking over when things get so serious that we can't completely control our fate. And yet the bravery it takes for everyone to get through that process of doing it on the person's own terms truly brings closure in a manner that other methods often struggle to.


extropia t1_j4v0hcm wrote

My mother had terminal cancer and chose to forego chemo and spend her final year at home. While some memories of her passing still haunt me, what I remember most is spending my last months with her in our family home where I grew up, where she was serene and dignified, rather than her pain and discomfort being extended for a few more months in a ward filled with machines and strangers in a state of half awareness.

It was a honestly a beautiful gift she gave us in her death. Uncomplicated and emotionally very "real", if that makes sense.