foomachoo

foomachoo t1_je383gl wrote

Grief comes in waves.

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It usually takes more than a year, as yearly events trigger memories that we otherwise forget.

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Oh, it's Easter? The last time we had Easter ____ was with us!
Oh, it's Halloween? The last time....

Oh, I smell cookies baking? The last time...

Each event is like a fresh wave of grief washing over us.

And, if we are healing properly, each repeated wave hits a little less hard.

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So, 3 years is 3 waves of each type of yearly trigger, and that's quite optimistic for some of the worst losses we might face. 1 year is just too quick for most losses.

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