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gcitt t1_j2fr3sd wrote
Reply to comment by Rando161803 in [22F][39M] I had to fight my boyfriend [of 3 years] after he picked me up and tried to carry me back to the house in a petty argument. I should leave, right? by Rando161803
I think you may have modeled your life choices after your mother's.
gcitt t1_j2fo881 wrote
Reply to comment by Rando161803 in [22F][39M] I had to fight my boyfriend [of 3 years] after he picked me up and tried to carry me back to the house in a petty argument. I should leave, right? by Rando161803
Contact a DV organization in your area. I saw your post from a few months back. You are in physical danger.
gcitt t1_j2fm67z wrote
Reply to [22F][39M] I had to fight my boyfriend [of 3 years] after he picked me up and tried to carry me back to the house in a petty argument. I should leave, right? by Rando161803
A large 36 year old man got with a small teenager to have control. Full stop. No questions.
He is participating in this bizarre "discussion" and telling you that he understands if you want to leave because he wants you to feel like you're in control. If he can make you believe that you are in control, you'll ignore people like me when we tell you that he's a grooming piece of shit.
He put his hands on you, and your body knew to fight and flee. Deep down you know what to do.
gcitt t1_j2fl1t2 wrote
Reply to comment by Worldexplorer_ in [33M] [26F] why doesn’t my husband *show* me he loves me through gestures? by Worldexplorer_
Yeah, I did that for 5 years. Once I stopped putting up with it, I was immediately replaced. You're a seat filler.
gcitt t1_j2fkf37 wrote
Reply to comment by MossValley in [33M] [26F] why doesn’t my husband *show* me he loves me through gestures? by Worldexplorer_
It's not just about the planning. She expressed that she was unhappy, he promised to do something about it, and then he didn't. You don't have to be a big planner to ask your partner out to the movies or Google a new sex position.
gcitt t1_j2fk1tw wrote
Reply to comment by Worldexplorer_ in [33M] [26F] why doesn’t my husband *show* me he loves me through gestures? by Worldexplorer_
Then you're going to be miserable. There is no third option. He's not going to magically change.
gcitt t1_j2fhjp8 wrote
Reply to comment by Worldexplorer_ in [33M] [26F] why doesn’t my husband *show* me he loves me through gestures? by Worldexplorer_
Tell him what you need. Tell him you're done if you don't see any effort. Stick to your word.
gcitt t1_j2f9az4 wrote
Reply to comment by Worldexplorer_ in [33M] [26F] why doesn’t my husband *show* me he loves me through gestures? by Worldexplorer_
That is bare minimum shit. That is what you get from a roommate.
gcitt t1_j2f64w3 wrote
You expressed your concerns, and he kept pushing his original deadline. That's a sign he's trying to lock you down so that when he doesn't change it's harder for you to leave.
gcitt t1_j2f4zl4 wrote
Reply to [33M] [26F] why doesn’t my husband *show* me he loves me through gestures? by Worldexplorer_
Because you put up with it for 7 years and married him anyway. Why would he change? He already has what he wants. Unfortunately, what he wants isn't to make you happy.
gcitt t1_j2f45br wrote
Reply to comment by ThrowRA-uqiqi in [25M][25F] GF keeps breaking up with me and coming back every week by ThrowRA-uqiqi
Unless she's making progress with treatment, cold turkey is the only way.
gcitt t1_j2f3zib wrote
Reply to comment by [deleted] in [33F] [36F] I [33F] am having an affair with someone [36F] who cheated on their spouse 8 years ago with me. Is it fate? by [deleted]
Your heterosexual marriage sucks. It sucked before you were even married, but you got married anyway. Your sex life with him is dead. Your main motivation for staying is to preserve a lifestyle with heteronormative privilege. And the moment a woman expressed interest in you, you decided she's the love of your life. The closest is glass.
gcitt t1_j2f3io3 wrote
Reply to comment by ThrowRA202334 in [21M][21F] She responded to my snap with text on it with just a blank snap by ThrowRA202334
Perspectives on what? Not even Sherlock Holmes could make progress with that scrap of information.
gcitt t1_j2f2ugx wrote
This person does not love you.
Please read that as many times as you have to.
gcitt t1_j2f2j1t wrote
Reply to comment by WoodenOne3189 in [31f][27m]How to break up with someone who talks about blanking themselves when we fight and he thinks we will break up . by WoodenOne3189
If it's a hormonal IUD, it can be rendered ineffective by other substances just like the pill. Maybe you have shit luck. Maybe you had a drug interaction. Or maybe you need to check your house for a bottle of St John's Wort.
gcitt t1_j2f13b0 wrote
It sounds like you don't have other healthy places to get support and attention from. Try to reconnect with family and friends.
gcitt t1_j2f0vu4 wrote
This is the standard toxic age gap template. You got rid of things that made you happy to please him, and he trivializes your career. This never ends happily.
gcitt t1_j2f0gvn wrote
That sounds like borderline personality disorder. If so, you need to block her number. Speaking as someone in remission, she may be neurologically incapable of breaking this cycle, so you need to do it for her.
gcitt t1_j2eyk9p wrote
Reply to [33F] [36F] I [33F] am having an affair with someone [36F] who cheated on their spouse 8 years ago with me. Is it fate? by [deleted]
Yes, you are an idiot. You are not her soul mate. You are sneaky fun for her. Do your husband a favor and leave, but don't expect happily ever after with her either. (You also might be gay, not bi/pan. I smell comp het.)
gcitt t1_j2exnxl wrote
Reply to [21M][21F] She responded to my snap with text on it with just a blank snap by ThrowRA202334
Why do you think we can read her mind? If she's not holding up her end of the conversation, then the conversation is over.
gcitt t1_j2excj8 wrote
Get a divorce. Move into student housing for the spring to get your finances in order. One semester of extra student loans is worth your dignity and peace.
gcitt t1_j2fslb8 wrote
Reply to comment by Rando161803 in [22F][39M] I had to fight my boyfriend [of 3 years] after he picked me up and tried to carry me back to the house in a petty argument. I should leave, right? by Rando161803
We pursue relationships that reflect what we think relationships should look like. When we are young, that usually means mimicking our parents.
I want to be very clear that you are not to blame for your current situation. But you are responsible for fixing the problem now that it has been explained to you.