True!

Used as a system to find out what the person is ok talking about! Ach, thank you so much I finally understand this.... I've mistakenly thought of it as a flatly structured(?) pool of green-light questions but this is organized quite differently! Must be easy on the other person's nerves too because at this level the asker wouldn't look nervous for them to feel like they must answer..

Thanks for explaining! I've always felt anxious talking/having others talk about these, seeing them as either very long stories or very short ones and very specific to the person themself. I'm gonna try to listen in on some conversations keeping the idea in mind :D

(By either very long or very short I imagine things'd be like: "at work everything just.... happens the way it must" "my mother tries to find herself a second husband and i'm worried because she really isn't the people type, she's got empty ideas about how living with people should work. but then so have i so anyways not in a place to judge but still worried......")

Is the idea at these all being something they do to organize/manage/make better their life, focusing on these being about things they do and decisions they make? I kinda see this as both a readily flattering (also ordinary so that's safe) field of topic and somewhat dangerous to approach.

Edit: missed words

I'm not very good at this, but I've suspected it could be about showing kindness/being fair in any other way than offering the same weight(?) in information.

I think the other posters have it right that being a good listener (including asking good questions) alone can support the whole conversation. With me the over-sharing has mostly happened when it's about me worrying about the other person feeling somewhat unfair if I don't talk about some personal stuff too.

I think with questions I worry mainly about me asking the person anything putting them in a place where they're forced to answer about something they don't want to. Maybe it helps to get better at this, asking a question and making sure the other person feels at ease not answering it....I'm lurking here to find out more.

Edit: missed a word

Don't be afraid to take a break! And feel absolutely free to come back to anything whenever you want. (Getting organized about it is the other task that needs to be addressed seperately, but I find keeping detailed notes that work with your brain can often cover that, and it should not require worrying about.)

I'm a on-and-off learner myself and I think it matters the most we don't make our quits final. It's not like with relationship responsibilities or subscriptions or medication where it's troublesome to go on-and-off.

In my case keeping seeing my important concepts (silly but let's call them that) in a hurry, or purposefully with the idea of making myself feel something, can actually have the opposite effects.

Had a summer where I brought a device with me on long, early transport to a place I didn't want to be, to have something to listen to, and after that ended it took forever till I don't feel nauseated seeing the device.

I expect things are not entirely the same though, because it wasn't a job or school where I could at least get something out of like money and dopamine kicks. Curious what is making this happen :(