>I think a lot of it has to do with losing who she is.
I think that's an astute observation. Perhaps she feels that with all of your support (and especially a nanny), she doesn't have a "good reason" to feel out of sorts with this new arrangement. Maybe you could begin a conversation with her focused on this, checking in on her and asking how she feels now after a few years of being a stay-at-home mother.
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>I think a lot of it has to do with losing who she is.
I think that's an astute observation. Perhaps she feels that with all of your support (and especially a nanny), she doesn't have a "good reason" to feel out of sorts with this new arrangement. Maybe you could begin a conversation with her focused on this, checking in on her and asking how she feels now after a few years of being a stay-at-home mother.