Adoption informed people do not use language like "ungrateful" to describe adoptees, and they are aware of the myriad of ways that children end up in foster care/adoption. You are blithely unaware that many "abandoned" children had parents who were coerced into putting them in care, or had parents who were "undesirable" in some way. You don't care about our issues regarding loss and identity, even if the adoption happened under the best of circumstances. Again, it is best for you to sit this one out until/unless you become informed about adoption, because you are not as informed as you think you are.

Respectfully, this is a conversation that is way above your pay grade. You are very obviously uneducated about adoption since 1) you feel bold enough to infantilize me and other adoptees despite the fact that we are grown adults 2) you assume that all adoptees were abandoned by their biological parents. Since you have no interest in listening to adoptees or learning about the history of adoption, you should really sit this one out.

Amazing, it’s like you didn’t read a thing I said.

Hi, transracial adoptee here. Most non adopted people really do not understand adoption or our issues. We can love our parents, appreciate that they were trying their best, and yet have complicated feelings about our adoption and upbringing. I wish that non adopted people could let go of the idea that adoption is a “good thing” and that adoptive parents are saviors. Perhaps then there wouldn’t be all this outrage over over Colin Kaepernick said.

I’m kind of surprised that this is brand new information to anyone, since this was a plot point in his Netflix show. I have to assume that he’s already had this conversation with his family and he’s not pointlessly attacking anyone. My mom admitted to me as an adult that she wished she’d done more than “not see color” when raising me, and I think that any adoptive parent who is honest with themselves can admit that adoption isn’t always peaches and cream.