Couples counseling is needed here. You need a mediator.

Everyone here is trying to get you to realize the same thing. That you don’t have control here. And that’s ok. But I am glad that I was able to say it in a way to get you to understand.

As long as your gf isn’t a bigot then all is well. She might be able to get some advice from your sister regarding this situation as well. Since she is the one how is most affected here.

There’s a lot of people out there that are bigots. You can’t change those people. And sometimes you can’t always avoid them. Your job is to protect your sister if you can. You can warn your sister. You can eve ask for her advice. But as long as you don’t purposely subject her to these people, then all should be fine. Big events will be your issue. Like you potential wedding. But choosing your sister over them seems like a simple pick for you.

Hunny. You’re 22. If you can stay home and save. Stay home no save. I think the savings might be high. But one more year at home will be a life changer for your future. Don’t rush to be on your own. You have a lifetime ahead of you.