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idkiwby t1_ja6o9xs wrote
Reply to comment by Cheebs84 in I (20FTM) can’t get over my boyfriends (20M) sexual past and I am desperately in need of advice (retrospective jealousy). by [deleted]
I wonder, is there no way to work on this while being in the relationship? I just don’t know how to bring this up. “Sorry, can’t be with you because I’m insecure.” You know what I mean? This is the first and only thing in the relationship that is bothering me, I would hope there’s some way I can manage this without ending it. I can’t imagine how I’d get experience otherwise. But thank you for the advice.
idkiwby t1_ja6nlmv wrote
Reply to comment by Cheebs84 in I (20FTM) can’t get over my boyfriends (20M) sexual past and I am desperately in need of advice (retrospective jealousy). by [deleted]
It’s going to be hard to let him go, we are otherwise very happy together. Hard to imagine a life without him. But I will have to give this some thought. Thanks!
idkiwby t1_ja6nexh wrote
Reply to comment by BangazNHash in I (20FTM) can’t get over my boyfriends (20M) sexual past and I am desperately in need of advice (retrospective jealousy). by [deleted]
Sorry, I should’ve clarified. How can I mentally work through this so that I am prepared to be in a relationship? Am I doomed forever, no chance at changing?
idkiwby t1_ja6ncmq wrote
Reply to comment by LegitimateHumor6029 in I (20FTM) can’t get over my boyfriends (20M) sexual past and I am desperately in need of advice (retrospective jealousy). by [deleted]
Thank you so much. This is good advice. I would hope that this is something I can work on and get better at, it doesn’t actually tear at me all day every day. Just in the late hours of the night I get reminded and I’m like “oh.” And it stings. But he’s worth it. I’m going to try the writing down and verbal affirmations. Thank you so much!
idkiwby t1_ja6mz5z wrote
Reply to comment by Cheebs84 in I (20FTM) can’t get over my boyfriends (20M) sexual past and I am desperately in need of advice (retrospective jealousy). by [deleted]
I see. What can I do about this?
idkiwby t1_ja6r110 wrote
Reply to comment by Covert_Pudding in I (20FTM) can’t get over my boyfriends (20M) sexual past and I am desperately in need of advice (retrospective jealousy). by [deleted]
Ah, that was a little dramatic. Just was looking for more than “don’t be in a relationship” - I know that’s a good suggestion sometimes but I was hoping there’d be something more instead of abandon ship when that’s the only problem. Thanks!