Cool! Bye then 😊

Yeah I do have disorganised attachment and I said when I'm ready for a relationship I'll work on being more secure lol. Ooookaaay thanks for your input!

Haha I hear you but also I didn't have much physical attraction to my partner before so it kind of just feels like a nice novelty. I respect what you're saying but If I don't want a relationship I'm not scared of being hurt I'm happy just having fun. Everyone thinks being emotionally unavailable is a bad thing based on trauma but I just don't want a boyfriend it's that simple. Yes casual allows me to be close to someone without getting emotionally invested in a relationship but I'm good with that. I had a very secure relationship before this in terms of the guy so I wouldn't settle for less. I know that because it's casual physical is more important to me right nowww because I don't really have to worry much about if their personality fits mine as I don't want a bf! So it feels important to be physically attracted to the person I'm sleeping with for sure. I'm quite reflective on how I feel and I'm very happy being an avoidant while I focus on me and do my thing! I respect everything you've said though , makes sense but yeah I wonder if there are any other perspectives to look at

I'm avoidant by choice. I was in a veryyyy intense relationship which really took it out of me. I want to just enjoy the next year focusing on me, having fun with friends, studying etc. I really dontvwant a boyfriend and when I do, I'll work on being more secure and look for someone emotionally available! But for now, this works! I just have never been so infatuated I wondered what else it could be than just it's taboo?

I don't know if I would want to date him because the idea of dating anyone overwhelms me I'm just not in that headspace! All I know is I fancy him a lotttt and I think he's super good looking and it makes me die 😄. I know all about attachment style I'm half fearful half dismissive.. so yeah

Ah sorry. I do get what you're saying but I do feel like I can have him as I don't want a relationship at all. I've come out of a 5 year one, I'm super busy so casual is exactly what I'm looking for and the fact I get to do it with him makes me super happy. I dont want a boyfriend I just want good sex and a bit of fun flirting so I'm excited that it's him and not someone else. I'm definitely infatuated for sure but now I've explained that... what do you think?

Yeah i am sure as I ended it I felt good when I did it because I knew he wasn't for me emotionally but physically I thought he was beautiful. We get along well as friends hes a good guy, I just didn't want to waste time romantically If I didn't feel we had something between us, he is quite emotionally immature and I need someone who can communicate well so yeah... I'm definitely sure I don't want anything solid with him I just think physically he's exactly what I imagine my dream looking man to look like but I can't figure out why. Looks have never played a huge part in my relationships that's not what I seek. A part of me felt a bit inferior when we dated like I didn't deserve it but now it's casual I feel like that's silly! But yeah i can't work it out