You have absolutely no say in what others do.

If they don't want to tip. That's on them.

You know who they are when you choose to go out with them.

You either accept it. Pay for their tips. Or don't go out with them.

Go tell her about this.

He lies to you. He's probably lying about a lot more. And you know he's cool with cheating.

And when you stay with him. Well, you never have him meet your best friend ever? Do you think once she breaks it off with him that she will just forget what he looks like when she hangs out with you and him?

Do you really think your best friend would stay with a guy who lied to you and her and cheated on you with her?

With friends like that, you don't need enemies.

So you still want to be with him after this?

They are not together. So him taking to others doesn't matter.

Straight up tell her.

Hey you know your fuck buddy? Yes. Here's a pic of my "boyfriend". Yes, he's the same guy. He's been lying to both of us.

Or are you trying to get out of this where everyone is completely happy?

Are you two actually exclusive. Or just seeing each other?

Your friend is not being unloyal to you. She doesn't know that you are with this guy. I'll bet you a million dollars that he told her that he was single. She has no idea.

Do not take this out on your friends. He is the scumbag.

Show her a picture of your guy. Make sure it's acutely the same guy. Then, trick him into meeting her while you are with her. See what he says about the situation. Leave him. And stick with your friend.

Social media is a cancer. Your friends are showing you that.

I know more people who don't have any than ones who do.

If it truly bothers you. Sure, break up.

How exactly is he lying to you if he doesn't have social media?

You don't.

You apologize and just hope he forgets it.

He can never fully trust you again.

Keep up the therapy and talk with them more about this.

Good luck.

You already know the answer.

You either break up or you accept the abuse.

You are not the problem. She is. She has major trust issues and jealousy issues. There are probably lots of insecurities also.

That is not something that you can fix. And it's not something that she can fix on her own. She needs to go see a therapist to get over all her issues before she can have a healthy relationship.

There is absolutely nothing you can do to make her not think that you are cheating. There is absolutely no way to prove that you are not cheating.

You will not fix her. Talking from experience with this kind of girl.
It only gets uglier.

But it wasn't a one-time thing.

You said every time you fight your go-to move is yelling, then packing your things, then leaving.

You can only bend a stick so much until it breaks. And you bend the hell out of your fiancé until he broke.

You now have to deal with these consequences. You have to let him heal. And you trying to bend him more will not fix this. You need to let him fix it.

You help him by leaving him alone to let him get through this on his own.

You are very manipulative and selfish.

In a relationship with a normal, rational, mature person. No, that's not too much to ask. That's how healthy relationships work.

In a relationship with an insecure, jealous, controlling person with trust issues. Yes, that's way too much to ask for.

10 times in 2 years?

It's definitely not time to get engaged.

How many times have you actually met her in person?

What?

What exactly do you think the definition of boyfriend/girlfriend means?

And what is the definition of commit to you?

If you say you are boyfriend and girlfriend, then you are committed to each other.

If you are not committed. Then you are just penpals.